Posted by: Jo Jordan on: March 7, 2009
Feedback is one of the themes on the internet in the last 10 days and as a psychologist, I almost always weigh in.
The lay meaning of the term tends to be: Can I give you some feedback?
That’s a polite beginning, and as with all politeness, it obscures a depth of tension. Think of “Won’t you come in?” “Do come in!” “Come in.” ” Come!”. The more polite we are, the more tense we really feel.
So in this sense, “Can I give you feedback?” means, “Can I tell you how irritating you have been been?”
The best response is for us to put on our “active listening” hat, option 3, angry.
An angry person wants their anger to be acknowledged. Accept their anger and restore their status. It is not hard.
Then, if there is a practical issue too, deal with it. But first deal with the social issue. They feel “dissed”. Restore their status by accepting their right to feel dissed and to tell you about it.
The proper meaning of feedback, though, is “distance to a goal”. This is the essence of motivation. The mouse runs faster when it sees the cheese. And because it is the essence of motivation, feedback is the most powerful tool in the psychology of high performance.
Once a university asked me to teach employee engagement to MBA’s in 3 hours. Not possible. Teaching the principles of feedback, practicing them till we are fluent, and using them in context, is a language that takes more than three hours to learn. And it is too important to be tossed off as a topic.
So this is a long post. But I hope you find it useful and towards the end, when I speculate on how we can improve the “feedback” we collect about training, and how we can do better HR when we manage the feedback loops in an organization, I hope you jot down some ideas and give me feedback.
Feedback tells you whether you achieved your goal . Feedback means it is informaton given after the event.
Feedback has all these elements and characteristics.
So this is feedback. It is useful when we have a repetitive task but it must be delivered before we begin the next trial. No wait, let me be more precise, before we start preparing for the next trial.
Feedforward tells us about our goal and, importantly, the context of the goal. Feedforward is provided before an event.
Feedfoward is provided before work begins. It is taught carefully in the military and we can learn a lot from them. In my experience, when something goes wrong, almost always I can track the problem back to information that is missing from the description about the situation. We didn’t brief people properly about the context.
Continuous feedback, which oddly does not have a specific name, is the third type and is the most important for high performance. This is feedback that comes from the task itself. It is fairly immediate.
Continuous feedback leads to high performance. And it creates the highly pleasurable sensation of flow.
Feedforward tells us what needs to be be done. It is the critical briefing about the context of a task before we begin it.
And feedback tells us what we did yesterday.
I think it is because people want to express anger and their anger is about status. A boss is establishing status.
Sadly (IMHO), English-speaking countries have masculine cultures. We spend a lot of time establishing the pecking order. Not all cultures do this. They don’t have to put other people down to feel good.
And because we spend a lot of the time engaged in one upmanship and oneupmanship is really impolite, we have to deny what we are doing and be “polite” on the surface.
Let me spell out what this means in practice. In Commonwealth countries, officers and “men” don’t eat together. Or didn’t. Has this changed? In European countries, they do. This I understand (has it changed), makes joint military operations between the UK and our allies very difficult. In less masculine countries, artificial status differences are unacceptable. You lead by doing your job.
Interestly, this is the difference between Gen Y and the Baby Boomers. Boomers who think they are liberated still subscribe to the pecking order culture. Gen Y don’t. 16 year olds befriend 50 year olds happily on the basis of common interest. They are less experienced in some respects and more skilled in others and expect to be incorporated on the basis of their contribution not their place in some kind of queue.
Everything. The industrial system, a la Taylor, works on a principle of Gap Management. Not “Mind the Gap” of the London Underground which is a useful bit of feedforward. But a gap that is presumed. This is how it goes.
I am the boss. I define the way the world should be. And I must make sure you live up to that idea. First, I assume there is a gap and I look for it. Second, I assume the gap is a bad thing so I suffer negative feelings. Third, your performance in so far it differs from what I imagined disappoints me. Fourth, I am the boss, so my feelings of disappointment anger me. See how it goes? Now is the time someone says, “Can I give you feedback!”
There is an alternative and even the Americans “get it”! For quite a while now. It goes by the rubrics of positive psychology and positive organizational scholarship.
People get distracted by the word “positive” assuming this to be advocating “politeness”. We all know people who advocate vacuous pleasantness and optimism but who are mean and vicious underneath. When we come at the world with a masculine, pecking order, mindset, positive seems all wrong.
So lets let’s put pecking orders aside and look at the alternative.
In many situations, if not most situations, defining a goal in advance is unrealistic. Even it is possible, we will lose out a lot. In the military, they say no plan survives meeting the enemy. We always have to improvise on the day. Under these conditions, you can see that gap management and feedback is counter-productive.
So why do we do plan? The military say it is not the plan, but the planning. We prime ourselves with relevant information so that we can process unfolding events as they happen. But we allow alternative ideas to develop.
That does not mean chaos. It means the opposite. And it does not mean a boss who has no idea what is happening.
It means a boss who is picking up communications, or feedback, from each of us, reconstructing the overall picture, and holding that up to us so we can see our collective position.
When we have an annual feedback review, this is what should be happening.
The boss, who is responsible for the annual cycle should be saying, “This is where we were a year ago. This is what our challenges have been. This is where we are now. This is where we are going.”
In a large organization, again, this is situated at the three levels.
How different this is from the rituals of anger and one upmanship that are played out in most of the organizations we know.
21st century management is about “eating with the men” and feedback is about showing how you have improved the organization. Your team wants to hear. Your team wants to applaud.
I started writing this post because Jackie Cameron (@jayseetoo) was talking about feedback in training. This is how I think we depart from our tradition of gap management in training. Let me know what you think and we can develop these ideas together.
In a training situation, a person comes into the room with a goal. But by definition, they do not know all the goals they could have. If they did, the training would not be useful to them.
They also come into a group situation (unless you see training as 30 separate bodies sitting passively like physical objects). And they interact with each other to mutual gain and quite often to mutual irritation.
Irritation and anger are part of life. We need to stop pretending they aren’t. Though they feel bad, they aren’t bad. They are simply emotional signals that we feel we aren’t being heard.
I want to know how our goals changed during the training session. And that includes the goals of the trainers. We aren’t doing gap management – one person doesn’t know everything! Thus I ask, whose goals have changed, and how?
I see training as a timeout where we follow a process which culminates in the comparison of the goals we had when we began with the goals we have as we return to the world and our lives.
And it is possible that we end a training course annoyed and disappointed! That’s OK. We may have been deluded at the outset about the possibilities available to us.
My evaluation questions go like this:
I want to know that a person can act on their own and so I want each person to actively work on their own plans.
A person might come to the conclusion “bin this subject – it is not for me”.
They also might end the course by deciding to follow up another question.
Both are acceptable outcomes to me. What I want to know is whether they have moved on in some way.
The end of a course is a time of “adjourning” too. People are moving from group to individual action and they need to visualize and mentally rehearse using the material as an individual and without my support and the support of the group.
So I collect the goals expressed at the end of the course and analyse them in my post-course review and evaluate extent to which they are active and specific.
I also add this evaluation question:
Self-efficacy is not sufficient for completion but it is necessary for completion.
I also want my course to be a resource to a person as they go through life and it is here I get the most important feedback on what I could do to improve the course.
I ask these questions, or variations, thereof:
Collective efficacy boosts performance and if people are proud to be in the room, they will learn heaps more.
I add practical questions here too.
And then I ask the humdinger of the question:
The Pygmalion effect has a dramatic impact on people’s self-efficacy.
And I might also ask an open question:
And lastly, I’ll ask myself this extremely important question.
If they ring me up next week, would I be happy to take their call?
Am I happy to have them follow me on Twitter and would I find their tweets interesting?
Can they follow me on Facebook and do I trust them to respect me?
What did I learn from this group and when I gave the summation and showed who we were when we began and who we were at the end, what did I feel and why?
If my evaluation of my group is not positive, I simply shouldn’t be leading them.
That is the challenge to English-speaking corporates. Why are the people in-charge allowed to be uninspired by their “followers”? It is not good enough.
I’ve also learned to ask this question positively: What happened today and “WHY DID IT GO SO WELL?”
Those of us in HR need to monitor these urges to “give feedback”. What is the real issue that has flipped this group into a negative spiral?
Once we notice that a group is so annoyed with each other that they are “giving feedback”, we should do something. This is my thought process. Yours?
If you aren’t able to facilitate a return to an upward spiral by going through these qustions, I will eat my hat. Try me out. I far prefer to wear my hat so this is a serious offer.
But remember, you may have to accept a lot of anger at the outset, dressed up as “feedback”.
And if you can’t do that, it’s probably because you don’t believe in this team enough, and maybe you should get another person to take on the job!
21st century work is not about one person defining the goal. It is about all of us working out what is possible.
Managers play an important role in negotiating and facilitating our sense of what is possible and simultaneously defusing strong emotions when these threaten to set us all on a downward spiral.
A manager’s role is to hold up a mirror so we see our collective dream in sharper relief and heighten our confidence in each other.
It is beautiful when we see it happening.
And did this help you at all? Do you have a reaction which would help me? Are we in better place than we were before?
I am. Writing helps organize thoughts. This is a pretty rambling post incorporating culture, feedback and organization with management, HR, training and selection but it has helped me heaps. Thanks and sorry about remaining typos and grammatical errors. There is a lesson in this. Don’t write long posts. So thanks. If you are reading this, you’ve stuck with me for a long while.
Hi Jo,
Thanks for a thought provoking and thorough analysis about feedback. Greatly appreciate your insight. It is something I want to reread and ponder about.
Hi Jo – wow, what can I say. So much great stuff in there. I will use the questions you suggest tomorrow after the training. I will tell them why -let’s see what they say too…and maybe get them to join the debate?
I need to come back and reflect on this some more later in the week. I am keen to see how this can be developed!
J
March 7, 2009 at 11:36 pm
Commenting on my own post! Check out Steve Roesler’s 3 evaluation questions on Jackie’s blog (see above). Begin there!